#1 Goals aren’t that important. Try working without them for a week. Turns out, you can do amazing things without goals. And you don’t have to manage them, cutting out on some of the bureaucracy of your life. You’re less stressed without goals, and you’re freer to choose paths you couldn’t have foreseen without them.
#2 When your child asks for your attention, do it. Give your child your full attention, and instead of being annoyed at the interruption, be grateful for the reminder to spend time with someone you love.
#3 I’m not cool, and I’m cool with that. People waste a lot of energy on this. It’s way more fun to forget about that, and just be yourself.
#4 You can’t motivate people. The best you can do is inspire them with your actions. People who think they can use behavioral “science” or fear based management techniques have not spent enough time on the receiving end of either.
#5 You ARE GOING TO MISS 99% of EVERYTHING there is. We can’t read all the good books, watch all the good films, go to all the best cities in the world, try all the best restaurants, meet all the great people. But the secret is: life is better when we don’t try to do everything. Learn to enjoy the slice of life you experience, and life turns out to be wonderful.
#6 Let go of expectations. When you have expectations of something — a person, an experience, a vacation, a job, a book — you put it in a predetermined box that has little to do with reality. You set up an idealized version of the thing (or person) and then try to fit the reality into this ideal, and are often disappointed. Instead, try to experience reality as it is, appreciate it for what it is, and be happy that it is.
#7 Don’t sit too much. It kills you. Move.
#8 Do less. Most people try to do too much. They fill life with checklists, and try to crank out tasks as if they were widget machines. Throw out the checklists and just figure out what’s important. Stop being a machine and focus on what you love. Do it lovingly.
#9 Rest is more important than you think. People work too hard, forget to rest, and then begin to hate their jobs.
#10 We are all faking it. All of us. I have a lot left to learn. If I’ve learned anything, it’s that I know almost nothing, and that I’m often wrong about what I think I know.