Reflections On My Confederate Mother


Image result for confederate graveIn 1987 my mother took me to visit the grave of my GG grandfather who was a solider in the Confederate Army and died in the war. He was a farmer as were most of the men in his regiment. He owned no slaves. He like many his age in SC had fathers and grandfathers who had fought in the Revolution against the British. My mother loved history, all aspects of it. Her primary intention raising me was to educate me on how history has a full spectrum. History gets warped, changed, rewritten, and spun. Therefore she was also avid about visiting plantation’s and their slave quarters and reading original slave accounts.

She had a library of original books from the 1800’s with letters from soldiers, slave stories you name it she had it. My favorite was photocopied handwritten accounts of Gen. Sherman’s march and burn through the south. Some of the worst war crimes ever committed were during that march to burn the south. One of her favorite things to do was to visit Charleston and purchase and speak with the women weaving baskets at the market. She would ask them about their heritage, their family, but most importantly would try and make a human connection with them and attempt at some kind of healing usually ending in a hug. Most were direct descendent’s of slaves in the area. Of course my mother loved the flag and if she knew that flag or anything would offend someone she would simply, kindly, and calmly explain her reasoning behind why she felt the importance to honor family who had been swept up into a narrative that did not tell the entire story.

My first experience with dealing with political correctness was in 4th grade when I wrote a report on Lincoln. I cited quotes from Lincoln which were properly sourced and documented from a few of his speeches. Long story short, I was given a F, told the quotes were inaccurate and “hurtful”. This resulted in my mom visiting the school to indeed correct the teacher and provide the sources (this was before the internet obviously). This started me down the path of research much like my mother. I had many more experiences like this through school. Another was when I did a report on free black men who fought for the Confederacy particularly the New Orleans Native Guards 1,500 of them. In context black Confederate Soliders consisted of 1%, similar to the 3,700 black slave owners in the south. even in context these types of stories were not allowed into the “official narrative”.

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Our history was not just about the Confederacy it was the entire picture leading back to the Revolution and before. History is ugly, beautiful and fascinating. Having not owned slaves we knew our family simply believed they were fighting the second revolutionary war.Lincoln and the Union Army did indeed turn rifles on their brothers and invade their land. States at the time were small countries held together by a voluntary arrangement which was fighting the British. It is hard to understand this now. It is why General Lee made the difficult discussion that he could not take up arms against his countrymen of Virginia when asked to lead the Union army as he knew he would be invading his own countrymen. Lincoln presented him with a gun to the head option. Lee would be called a traitor either way. His country of Virginia would never forget if he betrayed his own countrymen.

I understand Confederate symbols are offensive. Being offended is another complicated subject. I choose to not be offended when I see things that upset me or go against my values. I understand the monuments will all come down. My mother told me this in the 80’s, quite frankly she predicted in DETAIL what is happening right now. She was laughed at pretty heavily at such a notion. Some were put up in the 60’s for the wrong reasons, some in the early 1900’s. So I do get it. However Confederate soldiers are by law US veterans. No matter how you feel about this subject graves of men like my family do not deserve to be vandalized and pissed on. No graves to my knowledge have been torn down or anything. I understand the statues in public places. A mob tearing down a statue which was not of a person but for men who fought for “the grey” is just wrong. This is divide and conquer right in front of us.

It is the media telling us how bad race relations are. We work with and live with people of all colors and backgrounds (at least here in the south, I saw some pretty ALL WHITE areas up north). We get along. Most of us including me have worked with and under people of all colors and races. We share the same common problem of being debt saddled citizens with an out of control Federal government which has put us all on the tax plantation.and were just trying to carve out a place to make it.

Alan Watt said knowing this agenda and the information does not mean you can stop it. So the statues coming down is just a prediction I knew would happen. It does not even bother me on an emotional level. I am simply documenting it.

I believe in the “‘peoples will” I think things should be done on a case by case basis as far as taking down statues. If the people of a community want to take something down by all means do so legally. I believe in a persons God given right to freely associate or NOT associate with whomever they choose. This of course is why people get divorced, people end friendship etc… That is free association. It is the same concept we DO NOT have with government. We support secessionist movement’s all over the world. Yet when a group of states wanted to peacefully and respectfully withdraw from the Union which started out voluntary and ended up mandatory by the barrel of a gun, by Lincoln we deem that as “treasonous” now with our revisionist history.
Slavery would have ended in the south like it has in all other modern states. Although we are all slaves on a much larger plantation now with room to roam. Slavery does continue to exist all over the world and that of course is terrible.

The overwhelming percentage of the African slaves were shipped directly to the Caribbean and South America; Brazil received 4.86 million Africans alone Some scholars estimate that another 60,000 to 70,000 Africans ended up in the United States after touching down in the Caribbean first, so that would bring the total to approximately 450,000 Africans who arrived in the United States over the course of the slave trade. A tiny fraction. Much like the amount of blacks who owned slaves and fought for the Confederacy.




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